Battling to conceive baby number 1 at age 34.?
Hi
I am 34 and trying to have my first baby. My husband is 38 and fit and healthy.
We have been trying to fall pregnant for 6 months. Of which the last 3 we have used clearblue ovulation predictors to get my ovulation days. But still no luck.
I do however have a strange occurrence every month that has only started since we started trying. At about day 12-14 (just prior to ovulation, I have a 31 day cycle) I have a discharge. A very watery, thin brown type of fluid that lasts 2-3 days. I also sporadically have a pain that I would only imagine to be on or near the left ovary.
I know the doctor knows best but he said I should relax and give it some time and see him in a few months if still no conception.
Just to add to our trouble I have multiple sclerosis & on interefonB (avonex) which I can stay on until conception. My husband had lymphoma 10 years ago and was treated using chemotherapy. But they say chemo effects on sperm motility are not permanent.
Any ideasadvice?
I suspect that the fluid is watery cervical mucus which simply has a tinge to it. My sister (age 35) had the exact same thing and in fact, she was bleeding so much they thought she couldn’t get pregnant. Well, that’s been proven wrong and she’s now enjoying every moment of morning sickness, simply because it proves that we’re not all biologically perfect and/or predictable!
Of course you might want to run this all past your doctor anyway, and check that the pain on your ovary isn’t a cyst. The vast, vast majority of cysts are harmless will simply go away on their own (they dissolve into the menses) but they can be annoying and interfere with TTC. Sounds like you’re simply feeling ovulation and probably never felt it before simply because you weren’t aware of when ovulation was happening. Now you’re TTC it has simply come into more focus!
And finally, it really does simply take time to get pregnant. I’ve been TTC for 18 cycles and there’s no medical reason they can find for me not getting pregnant. When you’re over 30 they tend to suggest taking more time, but stress can be a factor, so try and relax (easier said than done) and enjoy the excuse to drag DH into bed
Good luck!
well i have been trying for 2 years now with no luck..its very frustrating so i know how you feel. it can take people ages to concieve like 5 years and that. The only advice i can give you is to wait..i am sure you’re time will come soon.
Good luck and babydust to you
ya know what i just turned 30 and have been trying. my first doctor didnt do any blood work or tests. so i went to a fertility specialist. what they ended up doing were hormone checks by blood, they found out i have pcos, they did a dye xray to see if my tubes were sticking together or blocked, and now i have been put on clomid after being put on provera to start my period. oh and i have to keep my basal body temp. this helps you to figure out when you’re ovulating. so i would go to another doctor if for anything a second opinion. my 1st dr i saw him for 5 years — all of this could’ve been started already had he done his job. you should def be taking a good prenatal vitamin along with extra folic acid and your hubby should be taking a multivitamin and a folic acid supplement. this will help with preventing birth defects and will help his sperm count and quality. oh and be careful what you use for lube, i’ve been reading about pre-seed, which seems to be the best option, because saliva, mineral oil, ky all are not sperm friendly. you may even have a cyst on your ovary.
I am 34 too, and trying to conceive my first. My partner is 31 with a very good sperm count. We have been trying for a year and a half, and more than 20 cycles. I know it is very frustrating but you just have to keep trying. I’m sorry I can’t advise you on your meds/chemo but you seem to have a good doctor for help with these issues.
I don’t know what the brown discharge could be, other than ovulation spotting. It could be that you just never noticed it before you started trying. I know I noticed a LOT of things happening to my body that I hadn’t noticed before. It’s just because you are so much more tuned in to your body and your cycle.
Best of luck with everything. x x